Jesus says that blessing the children is just as important as teaching the adults—maybe even more important.
Jesus was just having a discussion with the Pharisees and His disciples about marriage and divorce. The disciples apparently still had unanswered questions. Maybe other adults were also trying to get Jesus attention. Amid all this some mothers come to Jesus with their children. Initially, Jesus let His disciples handle the situation to see what they would do.
Unfortunately, the disciples exhibited some attitudes that are all too common today. (1) It is more important to pay attention to the wants and needs of adults than those of children. (2) Children are too young to benefit from spiritual instruction. Both of these attitudes are wrong.
(1) In Matthew 18 we saw that Jesus said we should be careful not to offend the little ones. This by no means says that adults are to let children rule their lives. But it does mean that adults should take into consideration the needs and wants of children. Jacob displayed care for his children when he encountered his brother Esau on his way back to his homeland. (Genesis 33, especially verses 13-14.) Adults should take charge and leadership over the children. But people of all ages should be treated with kindness, courtesy, and sympathy.
(2) In Matthew 18 we also saw that Jesus said that unless we become as little children, we will not enter His kingdom. Apparently there is something about little children that allows them spiritual insight that many adults have lost. Those who regularly work with Children have known for centuries that the most effective way to spread the gospel is to teach it to children. Moses often wrote about the importance of teaching children. (For example Exodus 12:25-27 and Deuteronomy 6:6-9.) Saint Francis Xavier is quoted as saying, “Give me the children until they are seven and anyone may have them afterward.” Ellen G. White wrote: “It is still true that children are the most susceptible to the teachings of the gospel; their hearts are open to divine influences, and strong to retain the lessons received. The little children may be Christians, having an experience in accordance with their years. They need to be educated in spiritual things, and parents should give them every advantage, that they may form characters after the similitude of the character of Christ.” (
The Desire of Ages, p. 515) More recently, George Barna found in his research that “[f]amilies, churches and parachurch ministries must recognize that [the] primary window of opportunity for effectively reaching people with the good news of Jesus’ death and resurrection is during the pre-teen years. It is during those years that people develop their frames of reference for the remainder of their life – especially theologically and morally. Consistently explaining and modeling truth principles for young people is the most critical factor in their spiritual development.” (
Evangelism Is Most Effective Among Kids,
Barna Group.)
Several years ago my wife and I worked in the young children’s Sabbath School division of a small church. There was a particular brother and sister in the Kindergarten class who never knew their lesson or their memory verse. Their parents were good Christians, and I was sure they would instruct their children if they knew how to use the lessons. So one Sabbath I talked with the father. I showed him the weekly and quarterly lesson papers. I pointed out the daily lessons in these papers and explained how to use them. From then on, his children always knew their lesson and memory verse. A few years later we moved away. A few years after that we got a phone call inviting us to the baptism of those children. Of course, we attended the baptism.
A few years ago the Andrews University undergraduate theology department’s “field school of evangelism” came to the city where we were living to conduct evangelistic meetings in partnership with our church. They brought in an experienced evangelist from the conference to conduct meetings for the adults, and they tapped my wife to conduct children’s meetings. The evangelist and the local Bible worker convinced the theology faculty to train the students in both adult and children’s evangelism. During one of the training meetings my wife gave a presentation on the principles of children’s evangelism. All the students were required to participate in both the adult and children’s evangelistic meetings. (One student absolutely refused and managed to be exempted. Unfortunately, he never did see the importance of working with children.) All of these students gained an appreciation for working with all ages, and a few found that they had a special gift for working with children. The children enjoyed the attention from the evangelism students. Even the adult evangelist from the conference made several appearances in the children’s meetings.
I was unable to attend most of the meetings because of my work and family commitments. (I put our own children to bed on time in the evening while my wife was teaching everybody else’s children.) But I was able to attend the Saturday afternoon meetings. The first Saturday I met a family in the parking lot before the meeting. There were two children, two parents, and two grandparents. The children were excitedly telling the adults how much they enjoyed the children’s meetings. The parents were Kurt and Michelle whom I wrote about yesterday. When Kurt and Michelle joined the church and changed their lifestyle to God’s ways, there was no resistance from the children. The children already knew all about it and believed it was the right thing to do. They learned about it in the children’s meetings.
No age is too early to bring children to Christ. Matthew says that the children who were brought to Jesus were “little children.” Luke called them “infants.” (Luke 18:15.) Children can receive instruction during daily family worship even before they are born. During the first few weeks after birth, the mother might stay home with the baby. But within a few weeks, the baby is ready to start attending church with the family. The baby should be presented to the pastor or elder to lay hands on the baby (hold the baby, if possible) and pray God’s blessing on the baby. The church should have an age-appropriate class for the baby (actually, for each age group) with a lesson that the parents can read to the baby during daily family worship.
A few years ago our family joined a little church that had only two children’s divisions. The young children’s division was appropriate to Kindergarten age, but not for babies. After a few weeks my wife said, “We are going to have to do something because the baby is losing all interest in church.” I told her, “Start a babies’ class.” Later we ended up combining the babies’ class with the Kindergarten class. But we maintained age-appropriate elements for both age groups. I was also blessed to reap some of the results of other people’s work in that church. I taught a special baptismal class for children and their parents. I asked all parents who had children in the class to attend with their children. I wanted to make sure the parents took an active part in the instruction of their children. Five children and one parent were baptized. (The other parents were already baptized.)
Later we moved and joined another congregation. This time there was only one children’s class. The teacher had geared the class more towards older children. So, with the church elder’s blessing, we started a class for younger children. A grandmother who had not been attending church for several years heard that we now have a Sabbath School class for very young children. She started her granddaughter Sabbath School. Now she regularly attends Sabbath School with her granddaughter and sometimes stays for the worship service.
In granting the mothers’ requests to bless their children, Jesus also honored the position of motherhood. He honored the mothers’ desire to raise their children with a knowledge of God. Society has not always honored the position of motherhood. But the woman who stays home to instruct her children is occupying the highest position on earth. There is no position on earth of greater importance than that of a mother who faithfully instructs her children. The world may not notice her trials, struggles, and triumphs as she attempts to faithfully instruct her children. But the world will reap the benefits for generations to come. Just so, these unnamed mothers in the time of Jesus have brought courage to parents and affected the instruction of children for nearly two thousand years.
When a child comes to your church, is there a class for him to attend where he will be introduced to Jesus in a way a child understands. Working with a child might take several years. But in the end, it is the most effective means of evangelism.
By the way, when Jesus was done blessing the children, He left. He did not stick around longer to talk with the adults. Perhaps He was just waiting all along for the children to get there before He left. Just a thought.
The point for me today: “Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” (Matthew 19:14, NKJV.) I will do my best to open the way for people of all ages to come to Jesus.